Condoms

Even if you’ve had the same swinging partners for a long time, condoms should never be blown off as unnecessary. Condoms will help reduce the transmission of STD’s, and will lower the chances of pregnancy. All swingers clubs and most parties will have a mandatory rule about the use of condoms, and many clubs will provide them at no cost.

Club Hygiene

Other than STD’s, there are also other things to think about. Most clubs will have spas or pools, but many have rules against sex in them. There’s a good reason for this. Spas and pools are heated, so the water is kept warm and comfortable. This is the perfect place for bacteria to grow and multiply. Simply put, sex in a pool is not a good idea unless it’s your private pool and you are the only couple who uses it.

Don’t use others towels either. This may seem like a harmless act, but think about what that towel has already been through. Diseases and infections can live on the fabric, and if you use that towel on yourself you are putting yourself at risk for getting an infection.

A few other things to consider are showers and fingernails. Taking a shower before you go to a swinging event is just good form, and it will make you more confident. Fingernails can add to the pleasure of a sexual experience, but scratching someone with dirty fingernails is a great way to transmit bacteria. Keep your nails short and clean to avoid this.

Bisexuality

Exploring bisexuality is a common fantasy for everyone. Both men and women think about this. Some people choose to explore this aspect, and exploring it with other couples is a great way to do this. Find other couples that are open and interested, and just see where things go.

Exploring Fetishes

Another common reason to start swinging is to explore different fetishes. Maybe some people want to experience a dom/sub relationship to see what it’s about, and others just may want to see their partner with someone else. A swingers couple can easily help you discover things about yourself you may not already know you enjoy.

Keeping It Fresh

For many couples the idea of never being with another person can be suffocating. For those couples swinging provides a safe opportunity to keep their relationship open without worrying about the committed relationship falling apart.

Exploring Sexuality

It’s not uncommon for men to have thoughts about bisexuality. This is completely normal, and not something that should cause shame. A swinging lifestyle is a good way to introduce this and allow a man to explore. It’s also a great way to introduce the female partner into being more open to this as well.

Enhancing Communication

Men have a hard time communicating for the most part. With swinging, the relationships are built on strong communication. So swinging for men is a good way to get a guy to start being more open with communication.

Enhanced Sexual Energy

Swinging is also a great way to bring a spark back to an already stable relationship. After a couple has been together for a long time, without adding something new to the bedroom the spark can fade. This is a problem for both men and women. While not every couple chooses to add swinging to their bedroom activities, for couples who are open it can be a good way to keep the spark alive.

Swinging is something that should be well thought out before practiced. It’s not for every couple. If there have ever been jealousy issues then it’s probably not wise. Be open to the possibility, but also be realistic.

Feeling Exotic

For a woman, feeling desired can be important. It’s extremely sexy to a woman to be wanted. Swinging provides an opportunity for a woman to feel desired and experience a sexual rush without leaving their partners or straying.

Bisexuality

It’s completely normal for everyone to be curious about bisexuality. Swinging is a good way to experience this while not giving up a current relationship. A woman can feel desired by another woman, and see what it’s like while allowing her partner to participate. This is a safe and fun way to experiment.

Breaking Stereotypes

Not every couple is cut out for monogamy. Those who understand that sex and love are two different animals, a swinging relationship can fulfill their desires to be with other people without muddling in the actual relationship.

Enhanced Sexual Energy

Swinging is also a great way to bring a spark back to an already stable relationship. After a couple has been together for a long time, without adding something new to the bedroom the spark can fade. This is a problem for both men and women. While not every couple chooses to add swinging to their bedroom activities, for couples who are open it can be a good way to keep the spark alive.

It’s not for every couple. If there have ever been jealousy issues then it’s probably not wise. Be open to the possibility, but also be realistic.

Costs

Any single guy knows that taking a woman on a date can be expensive. Factor in the cost of a meal at a decent restaurant, and any other activities you have planned, and you can easily spend over $100 on a single date. And this of course is no guarantee that there will be a 2nd date. Spending that money on a dating site membership allows you to get the small talk out of the way before the date, and will give you a better chance at a real connection.

Sorting Through Different Desires

Another popular reason for men to use dating sites is it allows them to find women who share the same interests. If you have a certain type of lady you are attracted to, you can find sites that specialize in this. Dating sites can be found that market specifically to certain age ranges, religious affiliations, and even ethnic backgrounds. Joining one of these sites allows you to find what you are looking for without coming across as picky.

In Your Time

Another reason guys may choose to use a dating site is the convenience. Those with hectic work schedules will appreciate being able to browse through profiles at unconventional hours. Since dating sites are ‘open’ 24 hours a day, you can connect in your time.

Sites Available

Unlike hoping for a chance encounter, dating sites allow singles to sort through thousands of possibilities until they find one that meets their interests. Finding the right site in and of itself can be difficult, with so many options out there. You can find general dating sites that focus on long term companionship, or you can find many niche sites that cater to a specific group. You can find sites geared towards certain ethnic backgrounds, sexual interests, age groups, and many more options.

Cost Considerations

Even though most dating websites will charge a membership fee, when you consider the amount of money you would spend on potential dates trying to find someone who is compatible, it makes more fiscal sense to join the dating site. With a small amount of money up front you are able to browse through thousands of other singles looking for the same thing you are. Using a site also allows you to weed out the people you aren’t interested in before you invest time and money going out. It’s also a small price to pay for the convenience you end up with.

First Date Advice

A first date should leave a good impression, but shouldn’t be overdone. You don’t want to create an illusion. Choosing a quiet place is also helpful so you can talk comfortably. A quaint restaurant with a plan for a nice walk after dinner is perfect.

Second And Beyond

After the initial connection is made, you can put more creativity in to your date plans. By now you should know enough about the person to come up with some  ideas. If they are in to sports, take them on a play date. Tennis courts can be found open at many public parks late in to the evening. The same is true for basketball courts. Bowling, horseback riding, and hiking are other great ideas that an athletic date will enjoy.

Another great idea is to take in the local festivities. If it’s near Christmas, take a ride in a horse drawn carriage and enjoy the lights. Autumn is the perfect time for a hayride. Cold evenings can be wrapped up with hot cocoa by a fire.

Regardless if it’s your first or you 101st date, a little bit of planning can make it very memorable.

Local Swinging Clubs

A great way to meet other swingers in your area is to attend a local swinging club event. The memberships for clubs are typically low cost, and many will allow you to use the club once or twice on a guest pass before you purchase a full membership. Even if you have to drive an hour or more, it can be worth it. Even swingers from smaller communities will make the drive to meet others.

Online Dating Sites

Find a dating site that offers at least a section for swingers. There are plenty of niche dating sites out there, and many will allow you to browse for free before you sign up for a membership. Using a dating site to find other swingers will be a no-nonsense way to find other couples in your area.

Personal Ads

While this method is slowly being taken over by dating sites, you can still find couples in your neck of the woods that are interested in swinging by using this method. Many newspapers still run personal ads, and community bulletin boards online also allow this. Many people assume it’s not safe to meet people this way, but it’s just as safe as using a dating site. As long as you are careful and do some screening before you hook up, it’s no more dangerous than any other method.